“…everyone has a life that is different from the ‘I’ of daily consciousness, a life that is trying to live through the ‘I’ who is its vessel. …there is a great gulf between the way my ego wants to identify me, with its protective masks and self-serving fictions, and my true self.” —Parker Palmer, from Let Your Life Speak
Parker Palmer’s book is difficult for me to take in at times. Each line resonates deeply leaving me wanting to highlight everything I’m reading. The power and profundity stem, I think, from the modesty inherent in Palmer’s proposal…rather than selling himself as the expert, he merely plays the role of servant guide giving the reader permission to delve into the stream of the true self flowing free below the frozen surface of the public “I”.
I find Palmer’s lines above very provocative. It moves me to look beyond the public persona and move deeper into myself. Thomas Merton speaks to the same idea with the metaphors of a fire or a ship: “We are warmed by a fire, not by the smoke of a fire. We are carried over the sea by a ship, not by the wake of a ship. So too, what we are is to be sought in the invisible depths of our own being, not in our outward reflection in our own acts. We must find our real selves not in the froth stirred up by the impact of our being upon the beings around us, but in our own soul which is the principle of all our acts.” —Thomas Merton, from No Man is an Island
Often of late, I have engaged in conversations with people (mostly men) who are struggling deeply with issues concerning vocation. So much of our identity is wrapped up in our vocation and our performance in that vocation. Much of my current struggle with my identity is centered on the public “I”…the role, vocation, and social face of my life. But that revolves around job, career, resume’, public perception and performance. It is much more difficult for me to articulate what is happening in the stream of my self flowing below that sheet of ice.
The soul is like a wild animal—tough, resilient, savvy, self-sufficient, and yet exceedingly shy. If we want to see a wild animal, the last thing we should do is to go crashing through the woods, shouting for the creature to come out. But if we are willing to walk quietly into the woods and sit silently for an hour or two at the base of a tree, the creature we are waiting for may well emerge, and out of the corner of an eye we will catch a glimpse of the precious wildness we seek. —Parker Palmer, from Let Your Life Speak